forbidden fruit

One day I was looking through interracial love photos on a google search,and came across a beautiful spirit, sara & her blog post about the antics of others shunning her decision to love a man lighter than her, which happens to be a white man. Thanks to Ms. Sara, I've decided to join and do a little ranting of my own.

http://interracialloveandspicebysara.blogspot.com, & http://sarasbloginterraciallove.blogspot.com/2008/01/yes-some-white-women-will-be-angry-who.html

In the past, I've come across many posts on various sites about interracial relationships, how it's not right, or how it's disgusting, which is mostly written by women that have never attempted to step beyond the comfort zone of their same-race relationships, these women who, are predominantly white writers, that grew up in same race homes and were brainwashed into believing dating & loving a different race is a "sin" or "abomination".... I guess it's a sin too that I was adopted by a loving black woman that chose to shower me with hope, unconditional love, & whom gave me the tools of passage that a strong woman requires to have in order to establish herself with dignity, and class. My race happens to be a variation of 7 different ethnicities, most of them of european descent, but my biological mother happens to be part sioux indian of the Dakota tribe, so that makes me white/native american indian...with blue eyes and fair skin! As a woman that was never taught to see a person's skin complection before I see their character, I've had the privilege to date other races. In the course of 4 years in dating I had 2 serious boyfriends before I decided to marry my 2nd boyfriend, Pete who happens to be black.

Sadly I've been told recently by someone that he is a "foreigner" because of his skin tone...even though his grandmother, mother, father and HIMSELF were ALL born in the U.S., and they all have social security numbers....doesn't this constitute as an american, though he is considered afro-american?

In another incident I was told that white children have large heads because their brain is bigger since they are smarter....that's why most black or mixed children have normal sized heads...because they aren't as smart as white people...I was horrified when I was "informed" this by non other, than your typical white person.

It's come to my attention that people consider me prejudice against other whites because I was raised up by blacks and married into a black family but hold up...I AM NOT hateful toward anyone, I may dislike people for their views & opinions but I'm not a prejudice. Hello, I have to work with, live around, and constantly interact with whites everyday, so I will have to disagree with this ill-labeled assumption.


Because of Sara's blog, I feel compelled to tell my version of the interracial love experience as a white woman married to a black man with 2 sons. Something ironic though, I am a military spouse and the military hospitals have put black on both of my children's birth certificates. We all joke that only one race will fit. I figure in an analytical sense that since daddy is black, he's the dominating gene donor so I can understand, even though my kids aren't solely black! I truely want them to be proud of all of their heritage as I am, & I won't raise them glorifying one of their inhertance' moreso than the other.